It's a pleasure to meet you
I’m Lillie Brown (she/her), a somatic sexologist and intimacy coach. Maybe it was Catholic school or maybe it was Friday night sleepovers watching Girls of the Playboy Mansion, but I’ve always been fascinated by all things sex and pleasure—why we have it, how we have it, and what we can do to have more of it.
I wholeheartedly believe that having toe-curling, fulfilling sex is life changing. And I will never stop challenging and critiquing arcane ideologies about pleasure and sexuality and oppressive systemic structures that serve to shame and disempower people. Pleasure is your birthright—we exist to feel good and feel connected; it is not a reward for labour and productivity.
Living for pleasure never gets old
A little more about moi
A creative and an artist at heart, outside of this work, I specialise in digital marketing for creative and lifestyle businesses. A born button pusher and status quo smasher, I help creatives tell their story, breathe life and personality into their brand, and revitalise their marketing strategy in a way that makes it less scary. Regularly hosting and facilitating workshops, panel events, and guest lectures, I love to equip creative people with the practical skills they need to put their best foot forward and cultivate an engaged community.
In addition to my marketing prowess, I am also a textile and collage artist. Embroidery, beading, and digital collage are my mediums of choice and my art is vibrant, extravagant, and riotous. My work explores themes of femininity, sensuality, societal conditioning and expectations, and sexuality through a feminist and maximalist lens—you'll see some of my collages scattered across this site.
I am also a proud member of the LGBTIQA+ community, a newly-diagnosed neurodivergent gal and I also consider myself to be quite the hot chip connoisseur.
Why this work
Because we live in a culture with a cognitive bias; one where thinking and doing are put on a pedestal. We are taught to control and repress the desires of the body, and this separation of mind and body is discombobulating at best, and dangerous at worst.
Because we are also experiencing a crisis of pace and disconnection—glorifying hustle culture and moving at breakneck speed as we hurtle towards the next shiny, instantly gratifying thing.
Because sexuality is a core part of being human; innately intertwined with who we are. And because there are still so many archaic and damaging narratives around what sexuality is and should look like, preventing us from experiencing and exploring our full selves. That shame is not ours to carry.
Because accessing pleasure in all its forms is a birthright (not a nice to have), and all of us deserve to freely embrace hedonistic joy.
Because sexual energy is creative energy and we need more people overflowing with creativity, presence, embodiment, and living in an aligned way.
And because when people embrace their sexuality, they're more engaged, they're more vital, they're more present, they're able to access not only sexual pleasure, but pleasure in all its forms. That feeling of sand between your toes. The tickle of the breeze on your face. The sound of leaves dancing in the wind. The taste of a really flavoursome cup of tea. The smell of freshly cut grass.
Luxuriating in the everyday and embracing a sense of awe and glee creates a ripple effect far greater than any one of us.
How I approach the work
As a practitioner, my approach is client-centred, trauma-informed, sex work, kink, BDSM-inclusive, and gender/sexuality affirming. I am committed to supporting people’s erotic transformation and sexual liberation through shame-free, pleasure-focused education. And I do so within a sex-positive, intersectional feminist and queer theory framework that deeply values curiosity, intimacy, excellence, and non-judgement.
Values in Practice
Curiosity + non-judgement → ain’t no shame, do your thang. Let’s learn and try new things together; exploring our edges with curiosity and non-judgement.
Pleasure + play → I want you to take your time, and commit to helping you be as present and mindful as possible. We only take serious things seriously, and have plenty of fun in the process.
Erotic + embodied → taking you on a journey to reconnect the mind and body and repair your relationship with self and others. Not afraid to get a little saucy and a lot sexy.
Luxury + liberation → life’s too fucking short, so burn the candle, have the bath, wear the velour, and only ever take down systems, not people.
Salty + sweet → not trying to be everyone’s cup of tea, but committed to being our juicy and whole-assed selves (and helping you do the same).
Introductory Certificate to Embodied Counselling, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2021
Certificate of Sexological Bodywork, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2022
Certificate in Embodied Counselling, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2023
Mental Health First Aid, MHFA Australia, 2020
Desire Discrepancy: Differences in Libido and Sexual Expectations, Tanya Koens, 2022
The Body Keeps the Score: Trauma, Attachment and Neuroscience, Bessel van der Kolk, 2023
Navigating Intimate Pain, Tanya Koens, 2023
Intro to Sex Therapy, Tanya Koens, 2023
How to Talk About Sex in a Clinical Setting, Tanya Koens, 2023
I am a voracious learner and as part of my commitment to be a competent, well-rounded practitioner, I regularly complete professional development workshops and courses facilitated by industry leaders and receive regular supervision.